What Makes a Word “Real?”
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988669_10152882434160652_1893030052_nWelcome to another Tuesday with TED. Today we have English professor and linguist Anne Curzan who asks: what makes a word real? Curzan is a collector of slang words, a dissector of colloquialisms and a charter of language evolution. To put it most simply, she is a Professor of English at the University of Michigan who studies how the English language works and how it has changed over time. As she puts it in her talk, “The English language is rich, vibrant, and filled with the creativity of the people who speak it.”

In addition to sitting on the usage panel for American Heritage dictionary since 2005, Curzan is also an author—her latest book is called Fixing English: Prescriptivism and Language History. She also co-hosts the show “That’s What They Say” on Michigan Radio, all about language and grammar, and writes regularly for The Chronicle of Higher Education’s language blog, Lingua Franca.

Curzan is the kind of professor who actually encourages her students to use slang in class. Don’t miss this fascinating talk on the evolution of language.

Did this change how you view new words? What new words are your favorites? Which ones do you dislike? Leave a comment below.

Until next time,
Cynthia Patton

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Farewell to Hoofprints on the Heart
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Katie riding Hershey on the cover of The Independent Magazine.

Katie riding Hershey at HOTHARC in 2009. This photo appeared on the cover of The Independent Magazine and helped raise money for the organization.

Those that know my daughter Katie’s story know that Katie said her first words when she was two years and eight months. After more than six months of intensive speech therapy, the breakthrough finally came the first time she rode at Hoofprints on the Heart Adaptive Riding Center (HOTHARC) in September 2006. Needless to say, I became a huge fan and happily drove 45 minutes each week up into the hills near the Altamont to reach the ranch where lessons were held. I served as a volunteer side-walker too. It seemed a small price to pay for those precious first words.

Hoofprints on the Heart grew from that initial pilot project into a thriving nonprofit organization. Barbara Soules and the other founders began to search for a new, more permanent home, and eventually they found the perfect spot: historic Hagemann Ranch, located on Olivina Avenue near downtown Livermore. The City wanted to preserve the site from development but needed a partner who would utilize and manage the property. Barb thought HOTHARC was the perfect match.

I helped Barb polish her presentation to the City Council and drafted a script for the companion video. I gave a moving testimonial about Katie’s speech gains, and later, on the glorious fall day in October 2010 when HOTHARC and the City of Livermore held an Open House to celebrate their partnership to preserve the historic ranch, I served as the Master of Ceremonies. I was happy to do it. I wanted everyone to know that Hoofprints on the Heart was a magical place where miracles happened on a regular basis.

Danny and Valerie.

Danny and Valerie.

Sadly, the magic ended six months later. Two board members conducted what I can only call a hostile takeover and threw Barb off the board of directors. A few days later, they “fired” her as the volunteer Executive Director. Katie was the first client and I was the first volunteer to quit in protest. More would follow. Nothing phased the new board who replaced Barb with family members and friends from Marin County, New Mexico, and even Canada! These individuals had never set foot on the ranch nor did they know anything about adaptive riding. Barb was so dismayed at these changes that she took the extraordinary step of suing the organization she founded to regain her seat on the board and gain access to the property so she could see her horse, Smokey.

For three years, a small group of dedicated volunteers known as Friends of Hagemann Ranch worked to change the story. At first the City didn’t want to listen, but over time staff changed their minds. The trouble was, no one knew how to force the new board out. The veterans program was scrapped along with the community garden. Clients dried up and donations dwindled. The lawsuit dragged on. Barb’s horse died. And still the board hung on. Until last week, when a facebook post announced: Hoofprints is now closed. No details, just one simple sentence.

And just like that, the story ended.

Some of the outbuildings at historic Hagemann Ranch.

Some of the outbuildings at historic Hagemann Ranch.

After three years I’m surprised to find myself agitated and anxious over this news. I want to fight to preserve what’s left of Barb’s legacy. I want the horses safe and the buildings protected. But most of all, I want justice served. Two people ran a thriving community nonprofit into the ground and destroyed its magic. I want them to pay.

Part of me is happy this ugly chapter has ended, and part of me is sad to let Hoofprints on the Heart go. I helped tarnish the organization I once loved dearly and this pains me, now as it did then. Someone told me he fears more unpleasantness will be uncovered before this is done, and I suspect he’s correct. Something about the hostile takeover never added up, and I hope the public, at long last, receives some answers. I hope something can be salvaged from this confusing mess. What I hope most of all is that Hoofprints on the Heart Adaptive Riding Center can somehow be reborn so that Katie can once again ride Ahote.

Ahote in happier times.

Ahote in happier times.

Ahote, which means restless one in Navajo, is the horse that Katie rode last at HOTHARC. Of all the horses and ponies Katie rode over the years, I think he was her favorite, and for three years, she has asked me every week if she can ride Ahote. I cannot tell you how much I want this for my child who works so hard to speak and asks for so little. I want her to ride Ahote again. I, like so many parents and their disabled children, want the magic that was HOTHARC back.

Three years is a long time for anyone, let alone a child, to wait. I hope Katie’s wait is finally over and that the magic returns.

Until next time,
Cynthia Patton

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An Ode to Envy
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988669_10152882434160652_1893030052_nWelcome to another Tuesday with TED. Today we have literary critic Parul Sehgal who asks: what is jealousy? What drives it, and why do we secretly love it? No study has ever been able to capture its “loneliness, longevity, grim thrill” — that is, she says, except for fiction.

Sehgal is an editor at The New York Times Book Review. She was previously the Books Editor at NPR.org and the Senior Editor at Publisher’s Weekly. In this eloquent meditation, she scours pages from literature to show us how envy and jealousy is not so different from a quest for knowledge.

Did this talk change how you viewed jealousy? Do you have any stories of envy that you have shared (or might share) in your creative work?

Until next time,
Cynthia Patton

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Cynthia’s Yearlong 50th Birthday Bash–May Update
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J0341653As I described back in April (you can read the post here), I’m celebrating my 50th birthday with a year of activities and challenges designed to honor this milestone. I’m calling it Cynthia’s Yearlong 50th Birthday Bash, and so far it’s been a blast.

Here’s what I did in May to mark this big and badass year:

 

 

 

 

 

  • Launch—To celebrate the one-year anniversary of Storied Nights: An Evening of Spoken Word, I launched the Whistlestop Writers Open Mic at Swirl on the Square in downtown Livermore. This is something I’ve wanted to do ever since I took over Storied Nights and people kept asking me if it included an open mic. It took me almost a year to find the right venue, but wow, did we luck out with Swirl. A lovely historic brick building that houses a lovely and inviting wine bar with an even lovelier owner and manager who are thrilled to be supporting local writers and poets. I’m so incredibly grateful to be able to provide this opportunity for my fellow writers and community at large. The first open mic was last night and we had a good turnout. Great wine, great food, and great writing—how can anyone lose?
  • Submission—I submitted a story to the brand new LitQuake Basement Reading Series in San Francisco. I wasn’t accepted, which kind of sucked, but that’s not the point.
  • New Things—1) I went on the blind date and had a blast, even if I did get a beer spilled in my lap. (Thanks, Melanie!) Then went on another date, just to see if the first one was a fluke. And then a few more…. 2) I read my story at Flash Fiction Forum in San Jose before a crowd of strangers (rather than a sea of friendly faces). It went really well, even though I forgot my reading glasses when I headed for the podium.
  • Challenge—I ran in the Vintage Hills Fun Run with Katie in blistering 90-degree weather. Not sure exactly how far we ran, but I know it was over a mile. I could have gone further, but Katie was annoyed at the noise and the heat. Now I’m ready to tackle a 5K!

I can’t wait to see what the rest of the year will bring!

Until next time,
Cynthia Patton

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The Museum of You
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988669_10152882434160652_1893030052_nWelcome to another Tuesday with TED. Today we have designer Jake Barton, Principal of the New York media design firm, Local Projects. Jake creates interactive and digital exhibits for the likes of the 9/11 Memorial Museum, Cleveland Museum of Art, and Storycorps. Each of these projects aims to preserve and enhance the individual’s experience and memories.

For example, a third of the world watched live as the World Trade Center collapsed on September 11, 2001; a third more heard about it within 24 hours. (Do you remember where you were?) So exhibits at the soon-to-open 9/11 Memorial Museum will reflect the diversity of the world’s experiences of that day. In this moving talk, Jake gives us a peek into some of those installations, as well as several other projects that aim to make the observer an active participant in the exhibit.

How do you feel about this new focus on visitor participation and involvement at museums? How might you use these ideas to make your creative endeavors more interactive?

Until next time,
Cynthia Patton

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A Boy Named Jared
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1797545_10100925921647393_2043604207_nAnother thing that happened during my blog absence was Jared. No, he’s not a new boyfriend. Jared is an 18-year-old who is the son of Michael 2.0’s best friend’s fiancé, Laura. When Michael 2.0 went to Boston in December 2013, he met Jared briefly. Two months later, Jared was in California and living first with Michael 2.0 and then with me. I’ll spare you the confusing details surrounding the move. Let’s just say he’s a teen, rather strong-willed, and clearly a little impulsive.

I offered to let Jared live with me because I thought he could provide respite services (a fancy term for babysitting) in exchange for room and board while he finished high school. He’s a nice kid, and he and Katie clicked. It’s hard to find good sitters for Katie, especially ones willing to work for $10/hour. Plus I liked him. So we talked things through and he moved in.

First I had to clear a path to the guest room bed. For years I’d been piling stuff in there and closing the door. I knew it was a mess, but good grief—how had it gotten so bad? This lead to the discovery of clothes that I’d abandoned and never given to charity. I cleared out the clothes and then Michael 1.0’s discarded possessions. Next were the random items that seemed like a good idea at the time—a rattan mirror, two black and silver lamps, a down comforter that I’d forgotten to return in the chaos of my divorce—as well as stuff I’d hidden at some point from Katie and forgotten about. I filled bag after bag for charity and organized the rest. Then furniture started moving, a complicated dance between the guest room, the office, and Katie’s bedroom. The extra pair of hands helped, but mostly it was momentum that propelled me forward. All of this was good. There were, however, other, less great, aspects of our arrangement.

To start with, Jared is a teen. He spends huge parts of his day holed up in his room texting and using the internet—my internet. He takes really long showers and eats a lot. He slept until noon and then hung out in the yard sunbathing and reading. I wanted to do that but couldn’t. He didn’t register for school until I drove him there. You get the picture. I viewed our arrangement as a roommate situation; he viewed me as a surrogate mom, which meant whatever he found in the fridge or pantry was his.

After three weeks, I was getting annoyed.

Jared’s parents divorced years ago and the kid is now a zen master at playing one adult off the other. He added me into the mix and things got confusing. Eventually the adults figured things out, but by then Jared was angling for his own apartment—an idea his mom and I thought was crazy. But dad eventually caved and Jared moved into an apartment a short walk away. Part of me was worried and part of me was relieved. It seems to be working out, however, and by that I mean he may be eating nothing but chicken and scrambled eggs, but he hasn’t starved and his phone only got shut off once.

Jared still serves as Katie’s sitter/companion and that gives me more free time to attend literary events, yoga classes, and yes, even go on dates. Plus all those random items I mentioned? They found a very appreciative new home.

Until next time,
Cynthia Patton

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Everyday Moments, Caught in Time
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988669_10152882434160652_1893030052_nWelcome to another Tuesday with TED. Today we have two-term U.S. Poet Laureate Billy Collins. He is an English professor at City University of New York, where he has taught for more than 40 years.

Accessibility is not a word often associated with great poetry. Yet Billy has managed to create a legacy from what he calls being poetically “hospitable.” Preferring lyrical simplicity to abstruse intellectualism, he combines humility and depth of perception, undercutting light and digestible topics with dark, and at times, biting humor.

In this TED talk, Billy shares a project in which several of his poems were turned into delightful animated short films in a collaboration with the Sundance Channel. Five of them are included in this wonderfully entertaining and moving presentation. Don’t miss the hilarious final poem!

How did you like these poems? Did the animation enhance your enjoyment of them or serve as a distraction? How might you combine differing art forms in your creative endeavors?

Until next time,
Cynthia Patton

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Shop Cynthia’s Closet on June 14th
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1346927217126_w465As a result of Isagenix and the IsaBody Challenge, I’ve lost 40 pounds. I want to lose a few more, but I took a break for my birthday celebrations, and as I tend to do, a couple weeks turned into a couple months. But I’m gearing up for Round #2. At least I think I am. I’m back at the weight I’ve been at for most of my adult life, which means I could stand to lose ten pounds or so. Do I want to go all the way and finally lose it? Or do I want to stay at a weight I know I can maintain even when eating dessert?

I haven’t decided yet.

But what I’ve done while considering the weight loss issue is to sort through all of the formerly too small clothes I had stored in the unused bedroom along with all of Katie and Michael 1.0’s castoffs. I had so many “new” clothes after this monumental task that it necessitated a radical closet purge. Turns out most of my old favorites are too large to wear anyway. Some clothes still have the tags on them, waiting for me to find the right shoes or pants or top. This was the downside to losing so much weight. I looked at those tags and felt horrible.

By the end of the purge, I’d filled ten Rubbermaid bins with my now supersized clothes. Then I wondered what to do next. Sure I could give them away to a charitable organization, but donating brand new clothes felt really, really hard. I pondered this issue for awhile and finally came to the perfect solution.

Four Hands Joined TogetherNext month, on Saturday, June 14th, I’m hosting a party I’m calling Shop Cynthia’s Closet. My friends (and friends of friends) can take home my clothes in exchange for a donation to Autism A to Z. Whatever is left after the party will be donated to charity.

There’s a slate blue leather jacket (never worn) that I just know has someone’s name on it, plus tons and tons of other nice items. If you are in the San Francisco Bay Area, consider stopping by on the afternoon of Saturday, June 14th. I’ll have food and beverages and a whole bunch of clothes looking for a new home, but services as montrealmovers can help with the moving part.

Until next time,
Cynthia Patton

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The Link Between Vulnerabilty and Creativity
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988669_10152882434160652_1893030052_nWelcome to another Tuesday with TED. Today we have Dr. Brené Brown, a research professor at the University of Houston Graduate College of Social Work where she has spent the past ten years studying courage, shame, and authenticity. Brené states that in our anxious world, we often protect ourselves by closing off parts of our lives that leave us feeling most vulnerable. Yet invulnerability has a price. When we knowingly or unknowingly numb ourselves to what we sense threatens us, we sacrifice an essential tool for navigating uncertain times — joy.

This funny and engaging talk explores how and why fear and collective scarcity has dangerous consequences on how we live, love, parent, work, and engage in creative pursuits – and how simple acts can restore our sense of purpose and meaning. I just loved this talk, and I think you will too. Enjoy!

Did this change how you view vulnerability? I know it did for me. Do you agree with Brené’s statement that without vulnerabilty, there can be no joy, love, faith, and creativity? How might you use vulnerabilty (and fear) to enhance your creativity? Share your thoughts below.

Until next time,
Cynthia Patton

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The Wreckage of the Past
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Woman buried in paperLately I’ve been making a big push to clean up the chaos that lingers from my separation and divorce. Michael 1.0 left in a hurry, and the house was not in the best condition at the time of his departure. For example, shortly before he moved out, he had replaced the flat, hollow-core doors with solid six-panel ones. Removal of the doors meant removal of the molding surrounding the doors. While he replaced the molding, he never got around to painting it or repairing the damage he created when tearing off the old molding. Lots of texturing and painting was needed to repair the walls, and even some tile work. Michael 1.0 may have been handy, but cautious and careful he was not.

In addition, the landscaping was only partially completed, and my dog did a number on the already leaky drip system after I rescued her. She and Katie worked together to damage the fire pit. The pool needed new plaster and tile. The roof needed to be replaced. The gutters are leaking and filled with leaf debris. Paperwork and files were dumped in boxes and left. Furniture, equipment, and clothes Michael 1.0 no longer wanted were abandoned.

In addition, baby clothes and gear that I had given to my sister and thought I would never see again were dumped in my garage when she abruptly moved back to Livermore for a promotion. Plus I have an entire wardrobe that is now too large thanks to a 40-pound weight loss. Not to mention all of Katie’s outgrown clothes and bins of IEP paperwork. And stacks and stacks of paper, bills, and receipts. Plus electronic data spread across four computers and two phones.

You get the idea.

It’s been four-and-a-half years since my divorce was completed and I’m still living in the wreckage of my past. The mess may be overwhelming, but I’m tired of living like a transient in my own home. I’m weary of the chaos. It’s time for a clean slate.

Since January, I’ve been sorting and purging, cleaning and organizing. To an outsider, it may not look like anything is being done, but believe me, it is. Recently I shredded nine years of old bills. It felt so good I may shred a few more. I tossed old toys and toddler furniture. I redecorated Katie’s room. I finally moved into my office.

Today I’m sitting at my beautiful post-divorce desk, typing on my new computer, and looking at my vision board that hangs on the newly painted yellow walls. My office supplies are neatly organized in the drawers. Half of the room remains in disarray, but this little corner is ready to rock and roll. Why did I wait so long?

Maybe how long it took is not what’s important. Maybe what’s important is that at long last I am leaving behind the chaos and wreckage that I became accustomed to in my marriage. I’m finally letting go of the debris of my past. It’s time for a new chapter to begin.

Until next time,
Cynthia Patton

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